Hey guys! Hope you all are good. So it’s valentine’s day or saint valentine or the feast of saint valentine. I hope the other names didn’t sound strange. Because if traced back to how it started with the western Christian Church those were some names affiliated with it. What shouldn’t also be strange is that today’s celebration in some places have different dates and some interesting stories as well. But we aren’t here to discuss it’s history, we all have google. But I think one thing that has stood out about valentine’s day and has evolved over the ages is it’s significance. And that is today being the day to celebrate love, care, affection and romance. So as today approached, I have been seeing all the pre valentine posts, wishes, traders wanting to cash out with discounted sales, and all the lovey dovey stuff. So I have been thinking about a few stuff. More of questions I have been asking myself which I intend to share or ask. Please permit me to bother y’all a bit. But before I get to it, let me apologize in advance incase i get anyone upset with my gist or any of my queries today, I am sorry.
You know on some days I pick up my phone and go online and see sweet pictures of couples doing their thing and having their moment. Then comes the reposting with heart emoji’s, blushing and captions like “Awww” , “beautiful” , “God when” and the rest. So here is my first question how do y’all go from all that to men are trash and girls are whatever they call them? This is me just being petty and throwing shades I guess what I really want to know is why we want to select? Let’s take an instance. I have never really been much of a fan of motivational speakers but i think sometimes you’ll have to admit that their words can slap some sense or inspiration into you. They’ll tell you in life in any situation you’re in take the positives and leave the negatives. So why is it that in relationships that is never the case mostly? Why are we more focused on the negatives in a relationship? They’ll also tell you that for you to get something or achieve a goal you have to go through some work or challenges as the case may be. So I ask again why is it that when it comes to relationships people don’t understand it has its shortcomings and struggles? I don’t know if you get what I mean? I have come to understand and I might be wrong but you can’t fully understand what it means to be with someone if you haven’t experienced some kind of pain or challenges being with that person or anyone else. And as much as we want to throw ourselves in our various activities, work and the rest. Deep down we all want to have someone who we can confide in, who we can make sweet memories with, who we can share our wins and losses with, who we wish can have our backs totally and just be there for us. Anyways, don’t spend another valentines day playing video games, watching movies, eating popcorn and sipping Coca Cola whilst sulking and feeling pity for yourself because you wish to be somewhere or with someone. If that is what your heart wants go for it. If you want to be like us whose plans for tomorrow are those activities I mentioned, do it because that is what you want to do. Do it because that is what you choose to do with no regrets. And if you feel you want more then go out. And don’t settle for less in that relationship. Spend sometime with your loved ones, exchange nice gifts, drink good wines, make good networks and have fun. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a day for just couples. It’s a day to celebrate love and we all have people we love. There’s no fun in being alone. Even the bible says everyone needs a companion.
I know you wondering how this connects to my title today so let’s take a paragraph and talk about it. So the last and only time I have ever had a val was 2015. I got a her this beautiful frame and she got me a rose and yeah I kept it. The actual rose. It was a lot finer then. She’s a chef now. Thinking about it now I don’t think I ever told her about how I felt at the time or told her face to face I guess she figured from my actions or little gossips from around . But take this from me if you meet someone you like please tell him/her don’t be like me. Gather up some courage and approach them. It’s either a yes or a no, it won’t hurt. And also please don’t waste anyone’s time. Let your real intentions be known. If you were expecting one cozy and sweet story i’m sorry but it was really a beautiful day.
So back to my unanswered questions. I still don’t have the answers. I hope to get them from y’all. But i’m quite aware of what is going in the world today or this side(Nigeria). I’m not naive. I know of some of the disgusting stories we hear about relationships and even the really unspeakable ones. But today is valentine’s day. Today we get to celebrate the beautiful ones. We are still going to hear about the husband who tried to get married to his side chick unknowingly to his wife or how an artist performed at some weddings in Abuja and a lady got to know it’s the wedding of her long time partner. That beautiful girl you know will still make a move on that guy because he’s rich or the guy will still make a move on her just to get in her knickers. They are still going to call men scum and ladies all the names they want to. I don’t think it’s going to change and I don’t think anyone has the perfect answer for why men cheat. Even if an answer comes up today nobody will believe or want to hear it.
So let’s take the day after valentine’s day and the rest of the year to worry about the negatives in relationships. Today we celebrate the positives. Today will look at the likes of Olu Jacobs & Joke silva, Dolly Parton & Carl Thomas dean, Joe Biden & Jill Jacobs( if you know his story you’ll now why I mentioned his name), our older siblings that are hitched, that beautiful couple in your church, that lovely couple in your street, our parents. Today we get to celebrate the ones who made it work and who are trying to make it work. Because at the end of the day “Love is worth it “.
Thank you for stopping by. I apologize if my questions offended you or if this peice was too lengthy. I hope you enjoyed reading as I did writing. Please leave me a comment, give me some answers to my questions. Finally repost and share my work.✌